How To Shine

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Over the past few weeks, I have been asked several times to explain a little bit more about the STARR Principle. You may have seen me refer to it over the different platforms of social media where we connect. The STARR Principle is a guide to living a brighter life. It is a personal development tool with five extremely simple elements that when applied, allow you to shine. If you have ever thought you should be happier, luckier, richer, more successful or popular this may be helpful. The principles are simple, but they are not easy. Living life according to the principles may present challenges, especially to those who feel more comfort in staying the same, even if that is not living in happiness or being the best you can be. Here is a simplified version of the five principles. I would love to know what you think. I already work with private clients who have followed the methodology and achieved life- changing results. I do hope you enjoy it, and send you much love x


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“Accept Responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, and no one else.” Les Brown. Responsibility for your #STORY is the #1stSTARRPrinciple – let go of the past, the reasons, the excuses; they are not serving you anymore, today is Yours. OWN IT.



walt-disney-quotes3 Walt Disney was fired from a newspaper for “lacking imagination” and “having no original ideas.” Probably one of the most tenacious men ever to have lived, Disney succeeded and prospered where so many others have failed, because he never ever gave up. Although he was laughed at when he first suggested a full-length feature animation, and suffered multiple nervous breakdowns and two threatened bankruptcies, he held onto his dream. Don’t give up. Don’t give in. Keep Going. #TENACITY is the #2ndSTARRPrinciple


#3rdSTARRPrinciple #AUDACITY 156060_863701613659722_8955995303787806518_n Anaïs Nin: “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom” Ah, I know that pain. It was the best thing that ever happened to me. Deep down there is where you find your #COURAGE and that, together with confidence and charisma, make up the 3 Cs of AudaCity, the #3rdSTARRPrinciple – so are you still in a tight bud, or are you in full bloom? Get yer petals out…


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“Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody’s going to know whether you did it or not.” Oprah Winfrey. #RIGHTNESS is the #4thSTARRPrinciple. Nothing will drive you faster or move you further than your sense of purpose. Constant mindfulness puts Right on your side. Whatever your belief system may be – even if you have none – let your moral compass be your guide, and you will never lose your way.


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I am a member of the Professional Speaking Association. I give talks for them all over the country, including Scotland, Ireland and later this month, Wales. I do it for the love of speaking, and attend every annual convention without fail. Last year, I posted a daily countdown on Facebook and over nearly 200 days, I didn’t miss a number. I thought I might take this year off, but the ex-president messaged me and said “PLEASE Tan…” so I agreed to do it again. He asked if I’d be alright to get it going in two or three days. I said I’d do it in ten minutes, and I did. DO IT NOW. #RightNowNess is the #5thSTARRPrinciple – shock people – get it together – you snooze you lose.


That’s it! Oh yes, there is a bonus. Call it the centre point of the STARR. That is GRATITUDE. Everything quite literally hangs from it. So, what are you grateful for? Last week, we celebrated Nicky’s birthday with much joy. Since moving to Cornwall, he now swims, surfs, skateboards and sometimes goes quite happily to school… Every day, but particularly on his special day, I remember with extreme gratitude the medical team who made his life possible. Nine years ago, Nicholas did not breeze into Being. Instead, he fought for his life, as he was born with congenital pneumonia. His wet lungs refused to fully inflate, and he struggled to take in oxygen. So life began in an incubator, and Nicholas was tube-fed while we were divided by a cold plastic wall. I would stare at his chest and will it to work, and wince at the catheters and tubes that punctured his perfect skin. But he was and still is my brave boy. Miracles do happen, especially when medical science holds its tiny and vulnerable hand x


Nicky today…


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